A hot young lady at the club pulled me aside and said, "Oh you are so hotttt....I want to take a picture with you..." Now this has happened before, so my legs did not shake, my heart did not beat faster.....nor did I feel the sudden blood rushing through my head saying "I'm in!!" In fact my auto pilot spit out a regular answer...."5 bucks per shot! You comply?" and she tapped me lightly on my shoulder saying, "Whatever..." I smile and take a picture with her....
She looks at the camera and says, "it's funny..." and I say "what?" and she says, "you are not at all photogenic..." and I say, "yea I've been told so...." I was cracking up....
I wanted to tell her, "you know, I was picked as a cover model for our university year book", or "you know, I had a model GF who almost sold me into going for covers." But I didn't. I reminded myself that it does not mean a thing to someone I met just a minute ago. I smiled and left.... Dunno if she kept the pic or deleted it....
My expression...PRICELESS......
So I came home and chuckled when I saw my bar pics v/s my home pics....here's a comparison....
HOME
BAR
MY CONCLUSION: WOMEN KNOW THEIR SHIT
"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat.
"I don't much care where..." said Alice.
"Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cat.
- Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland.
Most of us are drifters. We are conditioned to do what everyone else tells us to do. We see people working 9-5, so we do the same. We see friends getting married early wanting to start families early, so we do the same. We ask our elders, "What now?" and they pretty much tell you what they know the best. They don't mean any harm or wrong, but the fact is, not many know the answer to "What now?"
Reality is twisted. We perceive reality as something that is consistent with what we want to believe. Therein lies the biggest problem. Majority of us, will never understand life and it's true meaning.
In these series of articles, I impose upon my readers, my thoughts collected from a wide variety of my readings and inner thinkings and push forth the idea and the power of designing a lifestyle. Lifestyle design is not easy. Too vicarious, and you end up being jaded. Too cautious, and you are losing the very purpose of having a lifestyle. Striking the right balance is like tuning a piano, but once done, the world swings at your melody.
Much to our dismay, this world works in a counter-intuitive manner.
Take my word for it. This may seem absurd at first, but the more you think about it, the more it starts making sense. Pick an area, and you will find a counter-intuitive way of making things work really good in that area. Funny thing is, doing counter-intuitive stuff is easier, and more effective that doing the mundane daily stuff.
Example 1: How many of you get a lot more accomplished while you are working from home?
You don't have to get up early to take a shower and then drive to work (on an average you save about 1.5hr there), you don't have to indulge in office chit chat (on an average, you save another 1hr over the 8hrs you work), you have your dedicated attention for however many hours you decide to work and you don't have to deal with your annoying bosses (and that is more liberating than anything!)
When I work from home, I probably work about 7hrs, but I end up working the equivalent of about 10hrs. I catch up with 2-3 movies ('coz I can multi-task) or listen to my favorite music without having to bother anyone else (stuff I can't do @ work) and I manage to keep myself entertained and thus feel like my day was an easy ride compared to the days I have when I am working from the office.
Not only that, I save lunch money and ONE extra hour. I utilize that one hour to read up on some of the most interesting things happening in technology. Suddenly, I have hit a triple whammy here. I am getting a lot done by doing something completely counter intuitive - working from home. If I am really in the mood, I hit up a coffee shop by the beach and sit there working while enjoying the view and the beautiful women that pass by!! Can I ask for anything else? Yea, but no, not really!
I can give you similar examples on attracting women, learning languages, making money, getting your chores done, etc.
99% of us are convinced that this concept is untrue. We aim for mediocre stuff and thus obtain mediocre results. My very good friend Erik (who is now a celebrity in his own right), used to say, "If you do the same thing, you will get the same thing," and it's true. We set realistic goals, and thus we live average ordinary lives.
We first build the product and then try to find the market, thus leading to fewer gains. How about finding the market first, and then building the product. Or even better, finding the market, and then finding the product, improving the product and then just reselling the product.
You might think, who am I to be saying this. What is my disposition? Well, I am a learner. I am a kid with a curiosity like that of a cat. I want to live and learn, and learn and live. And I want to document my learnings and my design as I am learning and designing.
Hope you have a great day...I end up with this classic quote:
"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect."
Mark Twain
Lovingly Yours,
Anup Marwadi
They say, "
push yourself as much as you can, for now is the time to sow, for as you sow, so shall you reap."
I am often treading the thin line on being too obsessive/passionate/compulsive about my vision. Sometimes I feel like I should just let go, be in the moment, go with the flow and see how things turn out. The other part of me tells me to go get it. Achieve. Over achieve. For I don't know how long I will live. I don't really know what's right. It's a dichotomy of sorts. So I just follow what I feel.....
See...throughout my life, I've been in situations where I wished I had done stuff differently, for e.g. while I was in 9th grade getting ready for the 10th grade, I was also a champion martial artist in my division. I had an option to either choose studies or pursue Martial Arts. I gave up Martial Arts, but only half heartedly. I really wished that I had pursued it; for I was excellent! As time passed by, I ended up doing many things just because they were the *right* things to do.
It was in 2003, something happened, and it changed my perspective towards life, FOREVER. That was when I first decided to do things my own way. 4yrs of hard work and juggling my time between socializing, relationships, hard work ethics, traveling and maintaining a close set of friends and hobbies to maintain my sanity, I can completely look back and say that I have had the most wonderful past 4yrs of my life.
I strongly feel like I am neglecting my health @ times. I work too hard, too strict. I am sitting in restrooms with a laptop on my lap so I don't waste a second of my precious time. I don't follow my hard working lifestyle with good nourishment. I don't run, i don't exercise....fatigue is building up.
I got a wake up call last week when I woke up with my teeth hurting bad with all the stress I've put myself into. Apparently, I'm stressed out in the back of my head, even as I sleep and I am clenching my teeth too tight. This causes my jaws to hurt....r-e-a-l b-a-d.
Wakeup calls are good. They remind you that you can't take life for granted for too long. You snooze, you lose. So after a lot of neglect, I've finally started working out, eating good food and of course, sleeping more than I usually do.
How do I feel after all this....P-E-R-F-E-C-T.
I really enjoy writing. More than writing, I enjoy keeping everyone posted on some of the most interesting things in life. Things that I pickup on my day-to-day interactions with other people, things I read about, things that matter to me....
This will be the spot where I chart out my life, and paint it with vivid colors for the world to enjoy, and hopefully envy ;)
Enjoy!!
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